It's a joyous time around the Thompson household right now. No we didn't cash in on the record $2 Billion Powerball Lottery last month, but it sure does feel that way. My Carolina Panthers are going to the Superbowl!
This may not seem like a big deal to you, but we're die-hard Panther fans. I remember as a kid going to their very first home game after the new stadium in Charlotte was built. We followed the team especially close this year as they had a great regular season, a strong showing in the playoffs and now are on their way to the Superbowl.
At the beginning of the new year, I set some goals to strengthen my marriage and become a better husband. Through all of the excitement of the Panther's season, I have to admit that I became increasingly distracted from those goals.
Instead of spending time having meaningful conversations and creating fun date nights with my wife, I was spending time watching player interviews and looking at predictions for the next game. I said that working on my marriage was important to me, but I wasn't acting like it.
While reading a new book called, "The 7 Rings of Marriage" by my friend Jackie Bledsoe, something he said jumped off the page and grabbed my attention:
"Where you invest your time and money reveal what's most important to you".- Jackie Bledsoe
If Jackie is right, and I believe he is, even though I said working on my marriage was a priority, my time and money said it was not. As I continued reading, Jackie did a great job of breaking down the importance of having a strong marriage and how utilizing "The 7 Rings" can help your marriage thrive. As I've begun to apply "The 7 Rings", I've seen so much growth in myself and in our marriage.
I still enjoy watching football and will be watching the Superbowl, but I can say that I'm investing more time and money in my marriage ring than following who will win the next Superbowl ring and I'm excited to see the returns it will yield.
Football isn't bad for marriage, but if your marriage is becoming a casualty of the game you need to ask yourself the same question I did. Look at where you're spending the most time and money. If you're not investing in what you say matters most, it's time to make some adjustments.
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